Ceremony to Self

I was blessed to experience the wedding of 6 beautiful women at a woman’s home.  They married themselves by stating their vows while looking at themselves in a mirror. Such courage! So admirable! Not a dry eye in the house. This is an important milestone on their personal journey of transformation from past traumas as they embark on the rest of their lives with themselves.  This was a celebration of love for the most important person in their life, and wearing a ring on “the finger” to tell society that, yes, they are indeed in a committed relationship, the relationship comes first, they are not alone. 

An event like this can re-define the Cinderella story for all women.  Uniting us toward self-love as the foundation for all our healthy and loving relationships.

-Samantha

Samantha’s Story

Samantha sees Dixie wearing The Ring, “Is this new?”

 

“No,” she tells her. “I’m just wearing it ‘cause I noticed that people treat me differently. Life can be hard enough, I don’t need anyone else judging me anymore.” Did we forget to mention that Dixie is a single mom?

 

With that, Samantha is hooked, and now it’s all about The Ring Thing. She buys a $20 ring at a bazaar outside a winery on her way to Vegas. (Of course the best place to start with deception.)  In Vegas, The Ring plays safety charm.  Of course the one interesting gentleman commented on The Ring.  She responded with a quick “Oh, no I’m not married,” followed by the kind of laughter only heard in Vegas.

 

Soon after in a consult with her mentor, her dating life came up, quickly followed by The Ring Thing addiction. What was the best response for future inquiries? Mentor held up her hand with a lovely Ring on That Finger and said, “the truth.”  Again, more laughter.

 

The real reason The Ring is important for Samantha is based on her negative self-talk, our own worst enemy: “They are loved, I am not.” The $20 ring 10 years ago could have saved her from some major heartaches, confidence issues, and 500 hours of counseling! 

 

Initial reactions from friends and enemies:

Are you trying to attract marriage?

You’re lying.

You’re only going to attract men who like married women.

I want one.

 

So how does Samantha feel about marriage?  Good question.  How does she about her relationship with herself? Great Question.